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Herpy has had a good 13 year run and will never be forgotten for those of us who experienced it. Sadly the site is today unappealing and is no longer fit for the audience of 2018. The gallery will remain operational until further notice. You can follow me on Twitter for further developments. We also have a Discord server which has become the heart of the community. If you wish to join it, send me a PM over Twitter.

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Post by Aracth'nil » June 5th, 2017, 1:39 pm

On facades:
Do you put one on normally?
Do you find it tiring sometimes?
Is there anyone in real life that knows your true identity?
Any other comments?
Just asking to see if my perspective is different - I'll indulge that later.
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Post by Xaithis » June 6th, 2017, 7:16 pm

I don't know if it would be considered a facade, but I definitely behave in specific ways in front of people that I am unacquainted with or in public. ie I believe I tend to be much more brusque, flamboyant and aparent as eccentric. At first I did it because it's enjoyable, like dressing up for an occasion. In reality it's a bit of an exaggeration, but it doesn't harm anyone.
Pertaining to whether it's tiring: it takes effort, but I've been that way for so long it's become second nature. At first finding where I put my pocket square, or pocket watch can be hindering to everyday function, but after a while all of the natures expressed and behaviours become just as everyday behaviours. ie finding my pocket watch is like finding my wallet, I naturally greet people in Japanese (and talk to myself) as if it were in English without second thought, I can talk about and relate seemingly obscure things to everyday conversation, as if it was clearly related.
Also most people I know better I am more relaxed with, but since it's second nature, it just comes naturally. I'm also pretty open here, general rule, if they know that I'm a dragon, and they know the details, they'll probably know me as I truly am in a personality sense.
Also just to note it's quite enjoyable, also since it's not what people are used to it tends to catch their attention and also makes for a lot of fun/interesting conversations. For example while going on an obscure tangent, someone I know (moderately) revealed that they are a member of the 'Knights of the City of York' or something like that, it's really cool the conversations you end up in.
My apologies for the long post! -Xaithis
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Re: Facades

Post by Koatliqua » June 10th, 2017, 2:15 pm

I think I know what you're asking, and it's a difficult thing to pin down.

Most of us probably behave in different ways depending on the people with which we are interacting.

For example, I am very formal and polite with my editor and publisher.

I am restrained in some behaviour around my parents. I don't curse in front of them, for example.

With my friends I am open...

But I think, the only person I am truly open and relaxed with, would be my partner. I can lay my soul bare in front of him.

In this sense I think we are ourselves when we are most relaxed, but equally I wouldn't describe the others behaviours as a facade. It's just being able to judge social situations and modify our behaviour. Facades imply lies and masks.
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Re: Facades

Post by Aracth'nil » June 10th, 2017, 3:22 pm

I meant more if there are certain aspects of you that you hide at all times, except for when you are alone, so Herpy for me. So in a way, I am talking about a mask.
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Post by Koatliqua » June 11th, 2017, 4:27 am

I would imagine the scalie interest has sexual elements for you? If so, I don't find it that unusual, I mean I know very few self-respecting people who are open about their sexual interests.
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Post by Xaithis » June 11th, 2017, 11:26 am

So when you mean facade, you are referring more to complete behavioural falsities that are put up in any physical social interaction where personalality can be connected with identity; exception to the facade only existing in places of anonymity. Rather than social alterations due to societal norms? Is this correct?
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Re: Facades

Post by Aracth'nil » June 11th, 2017, 3:16 pm

@Koaligua, a little, but a lot of people around me find the furry community weird, much less the scalie community.

@Xaithis Basically. I'm talking about when you may choose to hide a certain aspect of you or act differently given a social situation. For example, the cool guy at the high school you went to who is behind the scenes scared of a lot of things.
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Re: Facades

Post by Xaithis » June 11th, 2017, 7:14 pm

Ah, I understand now. I do that sometimes in a sense that I tend to try and appear very confident in my knowledge about topics, especially the sciences. In reality I get quite concerned about my own capabilities in that respect, it causes a certain anxiety/fear that I conceal to others.
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Post by Aracth'nil » June 12th, 2017, 2:14 pm

So is anyone open about stuff like being scalie or not? I feel like I neee to maintain my guise of looking 'normal' sometimes, although partly I think society is to blame here, not my friends.
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Re: Facades

Post by LokiDragon » June 13th, 2017, 12:16 am

There's no such thing as normal. XD

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Post by Ishiah » June 13th, 2017, 2:18 am

Umm, I'd say that I'm reasonably open about my interest/obsession with dragons. Personally I dislike trying to hide such a huge aspect of my self, particularly from my friends.

All my friends are very aware of my obsession with dragons because I draw them and talk about them very frequently. Any acquaintances I meet who don't know wil quickly figure out my reputation. Most of my friends even know that there is a sexual aspect to my interest, and some closer friends have even seen the porn I've drawn. I've pretty much only received positive reactions from friends.

At work I try to maintain a professional image, but I doodle a lot so all my co-workers are very aware that I love dragons. I'm sure some of them realize I'm a furry, but they're also smart enough to realize they probably shouldn't ask questions.

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Re: Facades

Post by Aracth'nil » June 13th, 2017, 1:14 pm

Yeah - well I guess the same thing doesn't apply to people who are younger... and Loki, that's very true.
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